Shoot I sure hope so! I ain't yelling at him to come and get some freshly baked cookies, I'm yelling at him to STOP STAPLING YOUR BROTHERS EYEBROWS TOGETHER! When I'm THAT angry, he best be running in the direction opposite, far far away from my wrath, leaving behind hundreds of unused staples in his wake. THAT is what "getting down on their level and talking in a quiet and polite manner" is like as a parent.Īnother popular article discouraged the yelling method by stating that "yelling at your kids triggers a fight-or-flight response in their brain." They don't even give you a courteous glance in your general direction before they ignore you. Now imagine that every single person you ask not only ignores you completely, but acts like you don't even exist. Imagine asking in a quiet and respectful voice to every person that walks by where you can find the chickpeas. Not only that, but have you ever been blantanly ignored? Imagine you are standing in the middle of a packed grocery store, and have a very pressing question.like, where to find the chickpeas. THAT RIGHT THERE gives me more hope for humanity than "getting down on my childs level and patiently explaining to him why whacking his brother in the face with a snow shovel" is a bad idea. Half the time, he passes right on by with an "ain't my stop chump be more prepared next month" but sometimes when he's having a particularly good day he stops and empties the trash. I've had more luck with running my garbage can to the opposite side of the road in the morning when I forgot to put it out the night before, in hopes that the garbage man would pick it up on his way back down the street. I've tried the "get down on their level and talk quietly in a polite manner" gig, and coming from a mom of two boys, it don't work. Let them know what the issue is!?!?! I'VE BEEN YELLING AT THEM FOR THE PAST TWO HOURS TELLING THEM WHAT THE ISSUE IS! THAT'S WHY I'M YELLING! BECAUSE THEY AREN'T GETTING IT! The viral Facebook post making the rounds telling all mothers alike that "Yelling Is Not An Effective Means of Parenting." There are more than a few of these types of articles, but all essentially say the same thing, which is that yelling is ineffective and potentially harmful to your childs wittle psychy and it's much more effective to get down on their level, and in a soft and respectful manner let them know what the issue is. Or rather, I'm going to rebut some of the most God-awful, nonsensical, incredibly laughable "parenting advice" I've ever heard in my life. ![]() Everyone's got a dang opinion!Īnd now, ahem, I'm going to dispense mine. Young, old, left, right, Earth-dwelling or space alien. Dugger.Īnyway, what I'm basically saying is just about everyone has some kind of parenting advice they want to dole out. I'd like to walk up to one of thems and say, "quick, tell me the names of all your kids, first and middle, hurry hurry you only have 60 seconds!" Yeah take that Mrs. Still, even those with fifteen kids want to tell you how to raise yours. Thems the ones I like to refer to as "shut the f*#k uppers." The most well meaning ones are usually those who don't have any children. Well meaning people always like to give parenting advice. I did so many things to combat my drinking because I had to ease the anxiety I had from my drinking.Ī child! On a boat! Without a life jacket! CALL THE AUTHORITIES! ![]() Those included drinking tons and tons of water during the day, because if I nourished my body with tons of water before I injected poison into it, well at least I was staying a bit ahead of the game, right? I made sure I worked out consistently, because at least if I'm working out, I won't gain an insane amount of weight from the 800 calories I was drinking nightly, right? I knew that alcohol causes premature aging and *gasp wrinkles, so I spent my money on the expensive face creams that promised to diminish signs of aging, and that had to keep the negative physical effects of alcohol at bay, right? I only drank after 4 p.m., no earlier, because if I wasn't drinking at lunchtime, I surely didn't have a problem like those kind of people, right? I made sure I read my kids books every single night before I put them to bed, because if my drinking wasn't interfering with my parenting, then it couldn't be that bad, right? (Spoiler alert: it was totally interfering with my parenting.) I made sure the house was clean and tidy most days, because if I wasn't living in a pigsty, then I could tell myself the amount of alcohol I was drinking wasn't intruding on me making my house a home. There were things I made myself do daily in order to justify my drinking. And I had my qualifiers that I had to do every day in order to feel at ease with my alcohol intake.
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